Post-separation abuse is a critical, yet often misunderstood, issue in family law. At Hobson & Hobson, P.C., we recognize that the end of a relationship does not always mean the end of abuse. Instead, for many individuals and families, separation marks the beginning of a new — and often more complex — pattern of intimidation, control, and harm. Understanding post-separation abuse is essential for anyone navigating divorce, child custody, or spousal support cases in Georgia.
Defining Post Separation Abuse
Post-separation abuse refers to the ongoing, willful pattern of intimidation and control that persists after a relationship has ended. This abuse can take many forms, including harassment, stalking, legal manipulation, financial control, and threats involving children. According to recent studies, up to 90% of women report continued harassment or abuse after leaving an abusive partner (source). While women are statistically more likely to be victims, anyone can experience post-separation abuse.
In April 2023, controlling or coercive behavior that continues after a relationship ends was officially recognized as a criminal offense in some jurisdictions, reflecting the growing awareness and seriousness of this issue (source).
The Post Separation Abuse Wheel
The “post separation abuse wheel” is a framework used to identify and understand the various tactics abusers use after separation. This model highlights that abuse does not always end with the relationship; instead, it often evolves. The wheel includes:
- Counter-Parenting: Undermining the safe parent’s decisions, interfering with medical or educational needs, or using children as pawns.
- Legal Abuse: Misusing court proceedings to harass, intimidate, or exhaust the financial resources of the other parent. This may include ignoring court orders or making false reports to authorities.
- Coercive Control: Gaslighting, making threats, manipulating friends and family, and belittling the other parent.
- Isolation: Withholding children from social activities, spreading rumors, or cutting off access to communication tools.
- Stalking/Harassment: Monitoring the ex-partner’s whereabouts, sending excessive messages, or making threats.
- Financial Abuse: Withholding support payments, depleting joint accounts, impeding employment, or damaging credit.
For a visual representation and further reading, see the post separation abuse wheel.
Impact on Children and Families
Post-separation abuse has profound effects not only on the direct victim but also on children and extended families. Children exposed to ongoing conflict and manipulation are at higher risk for emotional distress, behavioral problems, and academic difficulties. Research shows that adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) are significantly higher in families affected by post-separation abuse (CDC ACEs Study).
Children may be used as tools of control, manipulated to take sides, or exposed to ongoing parental conflict. These experiences can have long-term consequences on their mental health and development.
Legal Considerations in Georgia
Georgia law recognizes the seriousness of domestic violence and abuse, including post-separation abuse. While recent legislative changes have expanded protections for victims, navigating these laws requires expertise and vigilance.
At Hobson & Hobson, we leverage over 30 years of combined experience to protect our clients’ rights and safety. Our attorneys are specially trained in complex litigation and stay current with evolving family law standards, ensuring that we can effectively address issues such as:
- Protective Orders: We help clients obtain and enforce restraining or protective orders when necessary.
- Supervised Visitation: In cases where children are at risk, we advocate for supervised visitation or safe exchange arrangements.
- Financial Protections: Our team conducts thorough financial discovery to uncover hidden assets or economic abuse and secures fair support orders.
- Documentation and Evidence: We guide clients in documenting all instances of abuse, which is crucial for court proceedings.
For more on Georgia’s approach to family violence, visit the Georgia Commission on Family Violence.
Recognizing and Responding to Post Separation Abuse
Identifying post-separation abuse can be challenging. Abusers often present themselves as reasonable or even victimized to outsiders, including courts and evaluators. However, the underlying patterns of control and manipulation persist.
Key Signs of Post Separation Abuse
- Frequent, unnecessary legal filings or court appearances
- Sudden changes in child visitation or custody arrangements
- Withholding financial support or sabotaging employment
- Persistent monitoring or unwanted communication
- Attempts to isolate the victim from friends, family, or support networks
Best Practices for Protection
Our approach at Hobson & Hobson is both empathetic and strategic. We help clients:
- Develop Safety Plans: Addressing physical, emotional, and technological safety.
- Document Abuse: Keeping detailed records of all interactions, threats, and incidents.
- Leverage Technology: Using secure communication tools and evidence-gathering apps.
- Seek Support: Connecting clients with counseling, advocacy, and community resources.
For more information on safety planning, see The National Domestic Violence Hotline.
How Hobson & Hobson Can Help
Our firm is committed to providing innovative, client-centric legal solutions for those facing post-separation abuse. We understand the unique challenges of these cases and offer:
- Comprehensive Divorce Representation: From amicable settlements to high-asset, contentious divorces.
- Child Custody Advocacy: Protecting parental rights and prioritizing the best interests of children.
- Mediation and Guidance: Striving for amicable resolutions while preparing for aggressive litigation if needed.
- Alimony and Spousal Support: Ensuring fair and enforceable financial arrangements.
We utilize advanced technology to streamline case management, enhance communication, and safeguard sensitive information. Our five convenient office locations across Atlanta, Canton, Marietta, Alpharetta, Milton, Roswell, and Duluth make us accessible to clients throughout the region.
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Frequently Asked Questions
What is the post separation abuse wheel?
The post separation abuse wheel is a framework that illustrates the various tactics abusers use after a relationship ends, including legal, financial, and emotional abuse. It helps professionals and survivors recognize patterns of ongoing control and intimidation.
Can post-separation abuse be prosecuted in Georgia?
Yes. Georgia law provides for protective orders and recognizes various forms of abuse, including stalking, harassment, and economic abuse. Recent changes in the law have expanded protections for victims of coercive control and post-separation abuse.
How can I protect my children from post-separation abuse?
Work with an experienced family law attorney to document abuse, seek supervised visitation if necessary, and ensure that custody arrangements prioritize your children’s safety and well-being.
What should I do if my ex is using the legal system to harass me?
This is known as legal abuse. Document all interactions and filings, and consult with an attorney who understands post-separation abuse. Courts can impose sanctions for frivolous or harassing litigation.
How can Hobson & Hobson help with post-separation abuse?
We offer comprehensive legal representation, safety planning, and support for clients facing post-separation abuse. Our team is trained to recognize and address all forms of abuse, ensuring your rights and your family’s safety are protected.
For more resources, visit:
- Georgia Commission on Family Violence
- CDC ACEs Study
- National Domestic Violence Hotline
- Womens Legal Service – Post Separation Abuse Wheel
- Hobson & Hobson, P.C.
If you or someone you know is experiencing post-separation abuse, contact us today for a confidential consultation. Our experienced attorneys are here to help you make the best legal decisions during challenging times.
Attorney Sarah Hobson at Hobson and Hobson, P.C. are powerful advocates for those who fight for better futures for those going through divorce and custody law matters.
