Reducing the Chaos Caused by Divorce
Divorce Creates Chaos
This chaos is caused by changes in residences, self perceptions, finances, social relationships, parenting, and more.
The rules fall into 3 categories:
- Limit change. If it isn’t broken, don’t fix it. If it doesn’t have to be changed, don’t change it.
- Protect people. Protect children first, you second, and yes, spouse third.
- Protect financial positions. Provide for necessities, preserve assets, and pay bills.
DON'T MAKE ANY MAJOR CHANGES FOR A YEAR
STAY OUT OF PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS FOR AT LEAST A YEAR
Protect People- Yourself
TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILDREN
Your most important task during your divorce is protecting your children. Make sure they have what they need. Shelter them from the divorce. Keep stress away from them. Maintain a positive attitude around your children. In addition to protecting the children, focusing on the needs of your children takes the focus away from you. This keeps you from dwelling on your problems while you are developing a new rule book for yourself.