Leaving a controlling relationship is a courageous and life-changing decision. For individuals in Georgia, understanding the legal, emotional, and practical steps involved is essential for a safe and successful transition. At Hobson & Hobson, P.C., we leverage over 30 years of combined family law experience to guide clients through even the most complex and contentious situations, including high-asset divorces and child custody disputes. Here, we outline a comprehensive approach to leaving a controlling relationship, informed by the latest research, Georgia-specific resources, and our client-centric, innovative legal practice.

Understanding Controlling Relationships

Controlling relationships are a form of domestic violence that can involve emotional, psychological, financial, and physical abuse. According to the Georgia Commission on Family Violence, the state reports a 54.2% rate of domestic violence, with nearly 10 million Americans affected annually. Psychological aggression is alarmingly common, impacting nearly half of all women and men during their lifetimes.

Controlling behavior often escalates over time, making it critical to recognize the signs early. These may include isolation from friends and family, monitoring communications, restricting access to finances, and threats or intimidation. The decision to leave is often the most dangerous and challenging phase, underscoring the importance of careful planning and professional support.

Safety Planning: Your First Priority

Assessing the Level of Danger The risk of violence often increases when a person attempts to leave a controlling partner. Before taking action, assess your safety and consider consulting with a domestic violence advocate or attorney.

Documenting the Abuse

• Keep a detailed record of incidents, including dates, times, and descriptions.
• Save threatening messages, emails, or voicemails.
• Photograph injuries or property damage.
• Store documentation in a secure, inaccessible location.

Creating an Exit Strategy

• Prepare an emergency bag with essentials: identification, medications, clothing, and important documents.
• Secure financial records and, if possible, save money in a separate account.
• Identify a safe place to go, such as a trusted friend’s home or a domestic violence shelter.
• Establish a code word with friends or family to signal when you need help.

For more on safety planning, visit the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

Legal Protections in Georgia

Temporary Protective Orders (TPOs) Georgia law provides robust protections for victims of domestic violence. A Temporary Protective Order can:

• Order the abuser to stay away from you and your children.
• Grant temporary custody and child support.
• Require the abuser to vacate a shared residence.

To obtain a TPO, file a petition at your local Superior Court. Many organizations, such as the Georgia Coalition Against Domestic Violence, can assist with this process.

Divorce and Child Custody Considerations When domestic violence is a factor, Georgia courts prioritize the safety and well-being of children and the abused spouse. Judges consider evidence of abuse when making decisions about:

• Child custody and visitation
• Division of marital assets
• Spousal support

If you are facing a high-asset or contentious divorce, it is crucial to:

• Secure financial records and consult a financial advisor.
• Work with an attorney experienced in high-conflict and high-asset cases.
• Consider forensic accounting if you suspect hidden assets.

For more on Georgia’s family law protections, see the Georgia Commission on Family Violence.

Emotional and Psychological Support

Leaving a controlling relationship is not just a legal process — it is an emotional journey. Professional support can make a significant difference in recovery and rebuilding.

Seeking Professional Help

• Therapists specializing in trauma and abuse can provide critical support.
• Support groups offer community and shared experiences.
• Advocacy organizations can help navigate the legal and emotional aspects of leaving.

Rebuilding After Leaving

• Focus on establishing financial independence.
• Develop a strong support network of friends, family, and professionals.
• Consider ongoing therapy to address trauma and promote healing.

For additional resources, the Georgia Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24/7.

Special Considerations for High-Asset or Contentious Cases

Financial Protection Strategies

• Work with financial professionals to identify and protect assets.
• Establish credit in your own name.
• Consider address confidentiality programs if safety is a concern.

Enhanced Safety Measures

• In severe cases, private security or supervised visitation may be necessary.
• Document all interactions and threats for legal proceedings.

Legal Representation

• Choose attorneys with experience in both domestic violence and complex asset division.
• Explore collaborative divorce or mediation when safe and appropriate.
• Prepare for potentially lengthy legal proceedings, especially in high-conflict cases.

At Hobson & Hobson, we combine empathy with aggressive advocacy, ensuring your rights and safety are protected throughout the process. Our use of advanced technology and ongoing training means we are always prepared to handle the most challenging family law matters.

Georgia-Specific Resources

• Georgia Coalition Against Domestic Violence
• Georgia Commission on Family Violence
• National Domestic Violence Hotline
• Georgia Legal Aid

Frequently Asked Questions

What is the first step in leaving a controlling relationship?

The first step is to assess your safety and create a detailed exit plan. Consult with a domestic violence advocate or attorney to understand your options and protections.

How can I protect my children during this process?

Georgia courts prioritize child safety. Temporary Protective Orders can grant you custody and require the abuser to stay away. Document any threats or abuse and share this information with your attorney.

What legal protections are available in Georgia?

You can obtain a Temporary Protective Order, file for divorce, and seek custody and support through the courts. Legal aid organizations and family law attorneys can guide you through these processes.

How do I handle finances if my partner controls all the money?

Start by gathering financial records and, if possible, saving money in a separate account. Consult with a financial advisor and attorney to protect your assets and establish independence.

What if my case involves significant assets or is highly contentious?

Work with attorneys and financial professionals experienced in high-asset and high-conflict cases. Consider forensic accounting and enhanced safety measures as needed.

Why Choose Hobson & Hobson, P.C.?

With over three decades of combined experience, our team at Hobson & Hobson is uniquely equipped to handle the complexities of leaving a controlling relationship. We offer:

• Special litigation training for efficient, effective outcomes
• A balanced approach — empathy when you need it, aggressive advocacy when it matters
• Expertise in high-asset and contentious divorce and custody cases
• Five convenient office locations across Atlanta and surrounding areas
• Cutting-edge technology for seamless, confidential case management

We are committed to helping you make the best legal decisions during challenging times. If you are considering leaving a controlling relationship, schedule an initial consultation with us to discuss your options and begin your journey toward safety and independence.

For more information, visit Hobson & Hobson, P.C..

References:

• Georgia Commission on Family Violence
• Georgia Coalition Against Domestic Violence
• National Domestic Violence Hotline
• Georgia Legal Aid

Sarah Hobson

Attorney Sarah Hobson at Hobson and Hobson, P.C. are powerful advocates for those who fight for better futures for those going through divorce and custody law matters.