Marriage is a profound commitment — one that intertwines your legal, financial, and emotional lives. At Hobson & Hobson, P.C., we have seen firsthand how thoughtful preparation before marriage can lay the groundwork for a resilient partnership and safeguard your future. If you’re asking, “what are you before you get married?” — the answer is: you are two individuals with unique rights, responsibilities, and opportunities to build a strong foundation together. Here are nine essential things to figure out before you say “I do,” especially for couples in Georgia.
1. Legal Requirements and Marriage Preparation in Georgia
Before you get married in Georgia, it’s crucial to understand the legal steps involved. Couples must obtain a marriage license from any probate court in the state, apply together in person, and present valid identification. The license fee typically ranges from $56 to $76, depending on the county. The marriage must be solemnized within six months of obtaining the license (Georgia.gov).
Many religious institutions, such as the Catholic Archdiocese of Atlanta, recommend beginning marriage preparation four to six months before your wedding date. This period allows couples to complete legal requirements and engage in meaningful premarital counseling or educational programs (Archdiocese of Atlanta Marriage Preparation).
2. The Value of Prenuptial Agreements
A prenuptial agreement isn’t just for the wealthy — it’s a practical tool for clarifying financial expectations and protecting assets. In Georgia, a prenup must be in writing, signed by both parties, and entered into voluntarily with full financial disclosure. It can:
- Protect pre-marital assets
- Define property division in case of divorce
- Address potential alimony arrangements
- Clarify financial responsibilities during marriage
Our attorneys at Hobson & Hobson can guide you through the process, ensuring your agreement is enforceable and tailored to your needs (Learn more about prenuptial agreements).
3. Financial Compatibility and Transparency
Financial issues are a leading cause of marital stress and divorce. Before getting married, have candid discussions about:
- Current assets, debts, and credit scores
- Financial goals and priorities
- Spending and saving habits
- Approaches to managing money (joint vs. separate accounts)
- Retirement and investment strategies
Georgia is not a community property state, but debts acquired during marriage may become a shared responsibility. Understanding each other’s financial landscape is vital for a harmonious future (Investopedia: Marriage and Finances).
4. Debt Management Strategies
Student loans, credit card balances, and mortgages can all impact your shared financial future. Discuss your respective debts and create a plan for repayment. Consider how you’ll handle new debts acquired during the marriage, as these may be subject to equitable division in the event of divorce.
5. Communication and Conflict Resolution
Healthy communication is the cornerstone of any successful marriage. Many marriage preparation programs in Georgia, including those required by religious organizations, focus on developing strong communication and conflict resolution skills. These skills not only foster intimacy but also help couples navigate disagreements constructively (American Psychological Association: Communication Tips).
6. Family Planning and Parenting Philosophies
Discuss your desires and expectations around children:
- Do you want children? If so, how many and when?
- What are your parenting philosophies?
- How will you handle religious upbringing and education?
- What are your expectations regarding discipline and family traditions?
Having these conversations early can help prevent misunderstandings and ensure you’re aligned on major life decisions.
7. Values, Expectations, and Lifestyle Choices
Marriage brings together two sets of values and expectations. Talk about:
- Career goals and work-life balance
- Geographic preferences (where you want to live)
- Relationships with extended family
- Religious or spiritual practices
- Division of household responsibilities
Understanding each other’s priorities can help you build a life that reflects both partners’ aspirations.
8. Understanding Georgia Family Law
Georgia is an equitable distribution state, meaning marital property is divided fairly (not always equally) in a divorce. Courts consider factors such as each spouse’s economic circumstances, contributions to the marriage, and the duration of the marriage. Child custody decisions are based on the best interests of the child, considering each parent’s relationship with the child, home environment, and ability to provide for the child’s needs.
Knowing these legal frameworks before marriage can help you make informed decisions and set realistic expectations (Georgia Legal Aid: Divorce and Family Law).
9. Leveraging Technology for Relationship Success
Modern couples have access to innovative tools that can strengthen their relationship:
- Budgeting and financial planning apps for managing shared finances
- Calendar apps for coordinating busy schedules
- Relationship apps offering daily conversation prompts
- Online counseling services for convenient access to therapy
At Hobson & Hobson, we leverage advanced technology to provide seamless legal solutions, and we encourage couples to use these tools to build a strong partnership (The Hobson Law Firm).
Frequently Asked Questions
What are you before you get married?
Before marriage, you are two legally independent individuals. This means your assets, debts, and legal responsibilities are separate. Marriage creates a legal partnership that affects property rights, financial obligations, and parental responsibilities.
Is a prenuptial agreement necessary in Georgia?
While not required, a prenuptial agreement can provide clarity and protection for both parties, especially in cases of significant assets, prior marriages, or children from previous relationships.
How does Georgia handle property division in divorce?
Georgia follows equitable distribution, meaning marital property is divided fairly based on several factors, not necessarily 50/50. Separate property (owned before marriage or inherited) typically remains with the original owner.
What should we do if we have different financial habits?
Open communication and possibly premarital counseling can help you find common ground. Consider working with a financial advisor to create a joint plan that respects both partners’ perspectives.
How can Hobson & Hobson help us prepare for marriage?
Our experienced family law attorneys offer guidance on prenuptial agreements, financial planning, and understanding your legal rights and responsibilities. We provide initial consultations to discuss your unique situation and help you make informed decisions.
Conclusion
Marriage is more than a romantic union — it’s a legal and financial partnership. By addressing these nine critical areas before you get married, you can build a resilient foundation for your future together. At Hobson & Hobson, P.C., we combine over 30 years of experience with innovative technology and a client-centric approach to help you make the best legal decisions during life’s most important moments.
For more information or to schedule a consultation, visit thehobsonlawfirm.com.
References & Further Reading:
- Georgia Marriage License Requirements
- Archdiocese of Atlanta Marriage Preparation
- Investopedia: Marriage and Finances
- American Psychological Association: Communication Tips
- Georgia Legal Aid: Divorce and Family Law
Attorney Sarah Hobson at Hobson and Hobson, P.C. are powerful advocates for those who fight for better futures for those going through divorce and custody law matters.
